Oh BOY! | Personal
May 29, 2018 , Personal
OH BOY! That is right! We are dressed in blue because we are welcoming baby number three THIS November and it is a BOY! For those of you who don’t know or even those that do, we are going to share some backstories to all of this! Andrew and I have always been very open about our journey. In June 2009 we got married. I decided when we got married I would not do anything to prevent children because I was told at 16 I would have a hard time getting pregnant. In the fall of 2010 I decided to go see a doctor and try to work towards some answers before it would take even longer. Andrew and I both found out harsh news in early 2011 and it was looking more and more like a bigger challenge. Not only was I having challenges but Andrew was as well. Andrew stayed hopeful though and the doctors said lets work with Chrissy’s problems first and then try for six months. So after 100 or more blood tests and a 6 months of medicine to help me ovulate they gave us one more month before they would ask Andrew to move forward with surgery. That month we got pregnant! It was just in the nick of time. Now let me jump back, in October of 2011 I was watching Tangled and at the end they say “And she was a princess worth waiting for”. Up until this point I had always seen us with boys. I imagined our family with boys but when I heard this at the end I was overwhelmed and just sobbed. I felt the promise then that we would have a little girl. In September of 2012, when I was just a week shy of having Emlyn a lady visiting our church came up to me. She said ” I am sure you are having a girl BUT I want to tell you something. You will have a son. He will carry out your husbands inheritance and be dressed in a mighty armor.” She said she saw him with a staff and standing proud in his legacy. I will tell you more on that later.
A week later, October 3rd, 2012, we welcomed Emlyn Christene! She was our princess worth waiting for! Looking back, two and a half years isn’t that long to “try” but for me it was a greater sense of a miracle than that. It was a lie I had believed since I was young that I would not be a mom or that I wasn’t fit for it. It was our miracle. After she was born I decided with nursing and again with our history not to do anything to prevent it. When we moved to Columbus in August of 2015 I decided that it was time to find out again what was going on. We definitely wanted more children but more than anything I was curious if I had the same issues. Through testing I found out that this time it wasn’t the same and actually it was my thyroid. I worked with a doctor to get that all leveled out. Andrew and I had moved into our own house in Columbus February of 2016 and we really thought then it was time. But we learned it wasn’t. We went through some of the hardest times in our marriage and life. We stepped aside from ministry and everything just to get healthy and we knew then we needed to just focus on the three of us and our family. Our business tool a huge hit from moving that summer. In July of 2016 we had made some huge strides spiritually and in our marriage and felt like God was asking something big of us. We gave up our house and moved above my parents pizza shop into a 900 square feet apartment. We didn’t know for how long we just knew it was what we were supposed to do. So we did. We were loading up our storage unit and I was watching all the baby stuff get tossed into the back. I told Andrew that day that I thought God would pull a funny and we would be coming back in the winter trying to find all this baby stuff for our new tiny apartment. Sure enough. July 31st 2016 I found out I was pregnant and in January we were digging it all out. It seemed like such a strange time to add a baby to the family. Andrew and I were grateful and amazed because we weren’t on any fertility treatment. We were also scared. Living in a small space and struggling in our business and finances just seemed far from ideal. But it was perfect.
March 27 2017, four and a half years later, we welcomed Aydah Joy. Who we hoped again that it was a boy but we were thrilled nevertheless. She was everything we needed in that season. It made no physical sense but in our hearts and our families, she was the joy we needed to get through those months. Now I look back over Aydah’s short life already and I can’t believe all that has changed since she came. Her name means to bring clarity, light and joy. She has done that! In September we moved to Granville into a house we love. Andrew has received so much favor at Amazon and it has been everything he has needed. Our business has grown leaps and bounds. In 2017 we called in our year of favor. In 2018 we felt like we needed to remain in that. I kept saying to God…” How can you top 2017? You gave us Aydah, moved us to Granville, provided for us in ways that are unexplainable! It has been so good!” I can tell you that 2018 has been unreal. In March Andrew and I started discussing trying again for in hopes of a boy. Little did we know we were actually already pregnant. I found out on Aydah’s birthday I was pregnant. I would be lying if I said my first thought was joy! I was actually scared! I was celebrating my ONE YEAR olds birthday and I was pregnant! WHAT! Two under two? How could I do it? A growing business and everything else! WOOOO… It was a lot to process but God has gone out of his way to show me that I CAN DO HARD THINGS about a million different ways.
As soon as we found out I couldn’t help but think it was a boy. I thought, this has to be our boy because we didn’t even try. With the girls we wanted and struggled but this baby was just given to us. I felt like God wanted us to know that a son was HIS idea for us.. not something we needed to force. See, I know a baby is a baby but for us there is a lot of feelings wrapped up in having a son. Andrew lived most of his life with out a present father. He never had that example and because of that he has dealt with many feelings and struggles. He has had to figure out what being a man looks like on his own and has learned how to do things not from a father but by himself. For Andrew, being a father to a son has always been a desire of his because it would give him the opportunity to father like God has taught him. To Father like he never had. The amazing thing to see Andrew today with our girls is that he is the best father and no one had to teach him. He just is. He loves big. I think fathering a son is just going to bring it full circle for him. It is a fulfilled promise too, like the word we received when pregnant with Aydah. We are ecstatic to have a son to carry on Andrews name. For myself, I always envisioned having a son and having girls threw me for a loop but was just what I needed. This time however, I am excited to raise up a son to be adventurous and brave like his daddy.
So there is all that! Wow! So here are the details!
- November 30th, 2018 is the official due date.
- Only one wedding was near our due date and everything else has worked out perfect.
- Our next wedding after he is born is in March so that gives us plenty of time to adjust as a family of five. We plan to bring on a nanny next year to help me manage my office time better. Having three kids, and two under two, I know I am going to need some set time to get my work done!
- I have been feeling WAY better than I was with the girls. Still sick at times and exhausted but nothing like before. With the girls I never held down anything. I can still count on two hands how many days I have been sick. Most of the time I am nauseous and just need to lay down.
- How did we find out so early? With Aydah we found an ultrasound clinic that finds out gender as early as 14 weeks. We did it with her and it was a fun experience so we decided to do it again!
If there are any questions you have just shoot us a message! Thanks for following along in our journey! Here is all the photos from our session with Jess Dandurand from Birds Eye View Photography!
Sharing, serving, and celebrating,
Andrew + Chrissy